Talking With Teenagers – 5 Tips for Parents That Don’t Cost Anything!

knocking headsDon’t book that Wilderness program for troubled youth just yet. There is still time for talking with your teenage son or daughter, even if things are not going so well right now.

Follow these 5 tips to learn more…

Find activities to do together

It might seem like you have nothing in common, but there are sure to be a few activities you can do together, even if it is something as simple as going to the park or taking them for an ice cream. This gives you time alone to open up the lines of communication, so you are able to start talking.

Listening instead of talking

As a parent, it can be tempting to talk at your son or daughter, especially when they do something you don’t agree with. However, this usually only serves to move you further apart, as the teenager starts to feel more alone. For this reason, it’s a good idea to spend some time listening to them without talking, so they can express what is on their mind without any kind of pressure.

Give them praise

Don’t be scared to give them praise when they do a good job or get good grades at school. All too often, a parent will be quick to point out when things go wrong, but then completely ignore the good things. When you give praise to a teenager then it helps with their confidence and self esteem.

Practice the art of negotiation

If you are constantly shouting at your son or daughter to do this or do that, and they are not responding, then you might want to try approaching the situation in a different way.

One idea is to negotiate with them when a job needs doing or you want them to do something. For example, tell them if they trim the hedge then they get to choose what movie is watched by the family in the evening. Small things like that make it easier to talk with a teenager.

Talk in a calm manner

A situation can easily get out of control when you start to raise your voice, which is why talking a calm manner is a much better idea.

This helps to keep the conversation relaxed, even when you are discussing a subject that might not be to their liking. Ultimately, you’ll find more respect from a teenager when you are willing to talk calmly, and not end up shouting all of the time.